Marriage Myths Abound! Did you think any of these were true?
By Pastor Kim Witcher
The Bible says in Mark, “What God has joined together let no one separate.” If he’s
working in your relationship and revealed to you both that marriage is in your
future, don’t delay his call in your life together. Are any of these marriage myths
holding you back? Read on to learn more!
Jump to a Myth:
According to The Knot, the average American couple will spend $28,000 on their
wedding. Seems pretty steep! How is this a myth? Glad you asked! First things first,
this is an average number, which can be highly misleading – thrown off by couples
with six-figure budgets. There are many tricks to throwing a wonderful wedding at a
fraction of this price. But more importantly... this is the cost of a wedding, not a
marriage!
The cost of to get married in Texas is $60-$85 for the marriage license. If you’re
someone who’s ready to be married but waiting to save for your dream wedding –
consider a smaller shindig with immediate family and save up money with your
(new!) spouse for the marriage celebration of your dreams later. Don’t put off
getting married because of the cost of a celebration!
Ready to tie the knot? We have a (no cost) opportunity for you to get married by
Pastor Jimmy Evans in Amarillo, TX on November 5, 2022! Don’t let anything hold
you back from the unique calling God has designed for your lives together. If you’re
interested in learning more about this unique opportunity fill out the short form below.
Couples put off marriage for any number of reasons, thinking they..
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must be at least X years old...
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must have dated for X amount of time...
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must be out of debt...
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must have enough money for a dream wedding...
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must finish school...
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must lose X pounds...
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must own a house..
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must be established in my career...
before they can get married. Other reasons might go deeper, such as seeking
reconciliation with a parent, waiting for a clean bill of health for you or a loved one,
or completing some emotional healing before stepping into marriage. None of these
are inherently wrong or bad. However, you want to be sure (1) you have clear
boundaries and you’re not making moral compromises while you wait, and (2) your
reason for waiting is just that – a reason, not an excuse. While the idea of a marital
commitment is a major life decision – it’s also a beautiful one. Ask yourself: Is this
worth delaying God’s best plan for us and our future together?
“So, brothers, in whatever condition each was called, there let him remain with
God.” (1 Corinthians 7:24 ESV)
Are you and your significant ready to step into God’s plan for your lives? We have
an opportunity for you to get married by Pastor Jimmy Evans in Amarillo, TX on
November 5, 2022! If you’re interested in learning more about this unique
opportunity fill out the short form below.
The concept seems simple: Moving in together is a smaller, generally cost-effective,
pre-step in the relationship that doesn’t require the commitment of marriage and
gives the couple a chance to see if they would be domestically compatible.
However, modern research gives reason to question the perceived merits, finding
that couples who cohabitate are more likely to experience less marital satisfaction,
more negative communication, and greater potential for divorce once married.
One study found that “convenience” was a primary drive for cohabitation and that
couples experienced more negative communication, less dedication to the
relationship, higher levels of attachment insecurity, and more experiences of
depression and anxiety than married couples that did not cohabitate. This is a
particularly harmful myth! Most couples move in together believing it is a healthy
way to test their relationship when it’s likely to cause emotional pain and potentially
even the dissolution of the relationship altogether. If you’re living with your partner
– there IS hope for your future marriage! But don’t put off marriage any longer.
Are you and your significant ready to step into God’s plan for your lives? We have
an opportunity for you to get married by Pastor Jimmy Evans in Amarillo, TX on
November 5, 2022! If you’re interested in learning more about this unique
opportunity fill out the short form below.
That’s kind of like saying money is just a piece of paper! Technically? True! But that
piece of paper is imbued with meaning and value. Legal marriage and making a
covenant before God to love and serve each other is one of the most important and
impactful decisions you will ever make! Your marriage covenant (or promise) is
what unlocks the full potential of God’s calling on your life, your spouse’s life, and
your God-given purpose together.
Sex is a healthy part of life! The Bible instructs us that sex outside of marriage is
not God’s plan. Sex within a married relationship allows greater sexual freedom with
one another because trust and commitment are the foundation of your sexual
relationship. There’s no Bible-backed “marriage alternative” such as living together
or domestic partnerships that can create the solid foundation you and your partner
fundamentally need to have a great sex life that’s honoring of one another.
In God’s design, men and women are different. Men were created with a strong
need for sex. Women were created with a strong drive for security. When couples
are having sex outside of the covenant of marriage, the man’s needs are getting
met while the woman’s need for security is being denied. This creates a tension that
greatly impedes the quality of the relationship.
Are you and your significant ready to step into God’s plan for your lives? We have
an opportunity for you to get married by Pastor Jimmy Evans in Amarillo, TX on
November 5, 2022! If you’re interested in learning more about this unique
opportunity fill out the short form below.
Understandably, this commonly misstated statistic makes many couples fear
marriage – not liking the odds nor wanting to be one of the one-out-of-every-two
couples whose marriage doesn’t succeed. But it’s outdated by at least a decade!
And in the U.S. we’ve seen a positive shift in the rate of successful marriages:
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Today, about 60% of married couples are staying together and this number
appears to be continuing to rise. (Divorce rate lessened to 40%)
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For couples whose first marriage occurs after 25 years of age, 75% will not
separate. (25% divorce rate – this is only slightly higher compared to couples
who marry at ages 18-25, which show around a 48% divorce rate.)
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Even given that some marriages do still end in divorce, the data also show
that marriage is a significant factor in the couple’s ability to sustain their
relationship. Over a 10-year period, 66% of married couples will stay in the
relationship, where only 38% of couples cohabitating will make it through a
decade together.
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Most importantly, as Pastor Jimmy Evans of XO Marriage likes to say, “You
have a 100% chance of success in marriage, when you do it God’s way.”
And that’s the most important statistic there is! A healthy, satisfying, joy-filled
marriage is an option for you – for life! If you want to know more about how to
achieve a healthy marriage, we invite you to join us at XO WEST TEXAS on
November 5, 2022. It’s a one-day event for you and your significant other to learn
all about what God has in store for your relationship. Register today
Are you and your significant ready to step into God’s plan for your lives? We have
an opportunity for you to get married by Pastor Jimmy Evans in Amarillo, TX on
November 5, 2022! If you’re interested in learning more about this unique
opportunity fill out the short form below.